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Emotional Trigger Phrases for Attraction and How to Use Them

  • September 14, 2016
  • / By Blayne Ketcham

Confused about a man’s emotional triggers?

I don’t know if you’re familiar with this or not, but there are certain trigger words and phrases you can use to improve your relationship, increase attraction, or make it easier for you to navigate your emotional relationship. That’s why I’m here – to help you deal with emotional attraction signs that are driving you crazy. These phrases you’re about to discover can prove to be very valuable tools in your dating life, so wouldn’t you want to know how to use them? I bet you do…

Look, I shouldn’t even be telling you that these work on men (they would so kick me out of the club for this), but I genuinely think this can vastly improve relationships. So, here is the deal with emotional trigger phrases and how you can use them to YOUR advantage.

First, allow me to explain a bit about these relationship phrases and the purpose behind them.

They have to do with the Law of Attraction and the emotional scale. One of the tenets of this concept is that YOU can actively control where YOU are on the scale and whether YOU move up, down, or if YOU stagnate on the scale.

This is all about you – remember that.

Basically, what I’m trying to say is that you can choose to change the way you feel about a certain situation and about your relationship. You can choose to feel better about it with a few choice phrases.

How to use trigger phrases to improve your relationship

Let’s say you’re pissed about something your partner did. How about an example where he is not feeling the greatest and he lashes out towards you.

The first step is to acknowledge how terrible that feels…

Now, it’s very important for you to consciously work your way to better trigger phrases.

This feels terrible, but I’m sure he doesn’t do it on purpose.

This takes into account his feelings.

He isn’t usually like this; typically, he is very good to me.

This is improving, because you’re acknowledging his good behavior and that the bad is out of character. You are working on positive energy.

I shouldn’t take this so seriously. He is not the one upsetting me; I am contributing.

You realize that you are in charge of your emotions.

I should focus on the positive and put out positive feelings into the world so that I can receive positivity.

You are remembering the most important part of the Law of Attraction.

I’m a great partner, and I deserve to be treated well. But I don’t have to rely on him for that.

Loving yourself.

I should see the good in him, instead of dwelling on one slip-up. I am changing my point of attraction and I will only engage with him when he is positive.

You are taking control.

This will allow him to give me positivity, just like I give it to him. We will attract each other’s positive vibrations.

You know how the Law of Attraction works. You take control of it.

Emotional trigger phrases for attraction and how to use them properly

Okay, so we’ve already seen how you can use trigger phrases for yourself, to improve attraction between the both of you. Let’s see what you can do to use them together with your partner, so you can increase the attraction and improve your relationship.

First, I want to remind you that the entire point of the Law of Attraction is that you get back what you offer. Emotional trigger words full of resentment will cause both of you to slide down the emotional scale, while positive emotional trigger words will improve emotions for both of you (starting with you of course).

Therefore, the secret is positivity, ALWAYS. If you first need to use your emotional trigger words for yourself as mantras, take the time to do that. After you’ve calmed yourself and you’ve acknowledged the situation, you are ready to interact.

I realize this isn’t your fault and that there are two of us in this relationship. We both contribute and I am sorry for my part.

This is a good start because it acknowledges your part of the blame and doesn’t place the fault squarely on his shoulders. That would only make him more defensive. Now, remember, this isn’t to say that he is NOT to blame for anything he may have done wrong. It also does NOT excuse bad behavior. The point of this exercise is that it allows you to control the health of your relationship and your own attitude.

I know you are not always like this, and I know your good outweighs the bad. I remember all the nice things you do for me.

You are acknowledging that your relationship is generally positive and that this is a one-time thing.

I want us to continue a positive relationship and appreciate each other. I genuinely love the way we are and our connection.

You are honest about your positive feelings and are helping him return to better thoughts.

You are so good to me and I want us to always be nothing but positive with each other. I don’t want us to share negativity and have it affect our relationship.

You are taking control of the situation and stating that you don’t plan on giving or receiving negativity.

I want us to continue to improve together and grow together as a couple. I love you.

You return to better and better feelings and are looking towards the future. He should be doing the same.

The importance of emotional trigger phrases

The Law of Attraction works and you should both be working together, towards building a stronger relationship. Don’t be afraid to use emotional trigger phrases for your own well-being and for the well-being of your relationship.

If your partner is not aware of the concept and the world of good it can do to your “couple life”, then introduce him to the effects of a positive mindset and trigger words. Show him, in practice, how easy it is to maintain a good relationship and come back from negative spaces, by changing his thought flow.

Teach him how you AND him can take control of both of your emotions.

All in all, emotional trigger phrases are incredibly powerful when used by yourself, but also effective when used as a couple. Remember, that it is entirely your choice in what direction you slide on the emotional scale. Also make sure that you are actively sliding upwards and returning to a happy point. Share positivity and invite positive triggers into your life, and you will notice incredible improvements in your relationship.

About the Author

Blayne Ketcham offers a ton of dating advice & a relationship program for women. After going through his free email-advice series, you'll understand how men think & what they truly desire. You'll also discover how to connect with any man using one simple method. This blog contains general thoughts and ramblings about relationship problems.

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