When it comes to men, emotional attraction and physical attraction are two entirely different concepts. In this lesson I’ll show you 7 examples of emotional attraction in a guy and why it matters. These may or may not overlap one another. Physical attraction is when you feel that chemistry with the guy you’re with and that’s not difficult to get, right? But, of course, you don’t want to settle with that and remain at that stage.
You want more; you want to be able to really connect with your boyfriend and feel that he’s all in. In fact, emotional attraction signs are the unique elements that will determine if a man decides to commit, and to be in a relationship with you that is more than physical fun.
Emotional attraction is the element that is constructed in time, and it’s the only thing that will make your bond last. Sometimes, you just want to know for sure:
Lucky for you, at times, actions speak louder than words, and there are some things men do when they’re in a relationship for more than just sex. So, keep your eyes wide open and read on!
You know that old saying – the eyes are the window to the soul? I know it’s a cliché, but it’s true! Most of the times, you can actually tell whether a guy is emotionally attracted to you only from the way in which he looks at you.
He looks at you as if you were a fairy, someone who isn’t from this world. In a good way of course, not the other way around, (as if he was thinking – what the heck are you doing here?) Also, I’m not talking about a look that transmits desire or lust (we do that too); but this time, it’s something else.
Such a look is characterized by a particular serenity, calmness, and sincerity. Plus, not only does he look at you in a special way, but he does it frequently. Whether you’re in a group or even when it’s just the two of you, he won’t be able to keep his eyes off of you.
Moving on to the next sign, if a man is emotionally attracted to you, he will treat you like a priority. Period.
Without fear of contradiction, everyone is busy, everyone has a job and has to pay bills every month, but when you want to be with someone, you make it happen.
When there’s a will, there’s a way. Believe me that when a guy wants to spend time with a woman, talking and finding out stuff about one another, it’s crystal clear that he wants more than just to get under her sheets.
When a guy actually wants you to be a part of his life, he will introduce you to his friends and family. If you haven’t met his buddies yet, and you’ve been going out for a while now, he’s not emotionally attracted to you.
Also, the same principle applies the other way around. He will want to be a part of your life if he sees a future with you. He will be more than happy to meet your friends if he intends to stay in your life and he feels that he is connected to you.
I’m not talking about a bad kind of different. Now that we’re on the same page, it’s important to pay attention to his behavior towards you, particularly in a group.
Is his behavior towards you different than the way in which he acts in the presence of other girls? Please, be honest with yourself when you answer this question.
That’s mainly because guys show how they feel through their actions, rather than through their words. On that account, many women feel insecure because a man will rarely be willing to open up and talk about his feelings. I know, we’re aliens.
Try paying attention to this aspect, as actions do speak louder than words. Even if he says he’s into you, and he likes you, but his behavior doesn’t portray that, you might be losing your time in a dead-end relationship.
Is he calling to check in only when there’s something in for him? You know the answer to this question better than anyone else.
When you’re truly interested in someone, you are willing to be there, even when things get rough. Say, if you have a problem, could you count on him? Or does he find a lame excuse that sounds like a pack of lies?
In this case, it’s sad – I know, but you have to admit it – you cannot depend on him. When he’s emotionally attracted to you, he’ll care about your well-being as much as he cares about his own. He’ll be willing to factor you in, and do whatever he can to help you, when he can of course.
If your guy knows that you love being pampered with a box of Belgian chocolates, he’ll go out of his way to make you feel happy. Hence, next time he sees you, he’ll bring you that box of mouth-watering chocolates. That is just an example. If he doesn’t bring you chocolates, it doesn’t mean he’s not emotionally interested. The bottom-line here is that he’ll be attentive and kind to you, doing nice things for you out of the blue.
A guy who isn’t emotionally attached to a woman won’t feel guilty for acting cold and unresponsively. On the other hand, when he feels any sort of emotional attraction, he will be sensitive towards your sentiments and moods, even though he doesn’t always understand them. So, take this aspect into consideration next time you’re rethinking your relationship.
Blayne Ketcham offers a ton of dating advice & a relationship program for women. After going through his free email-advice series, you'll understand how men think & what they truly desire. You'll also discover how to connect with any man using one simple method. This blog contains general thoughts and ramblings about relationship problems.